Making Unworkable Workplace Relationships Work!
Regardless of the size of the organization, conflict is inevitable and inescapable. Everyone is an extension of their family and cultural experiences that contribute to their mindset and view of the world. In addition, unresolved past workplace conflict creates a residue that contributes to low tolerance and the avoidance of conflict. Most conflicts arise out of unmet needs, opposing views, and attitudes but most notably, the arising of needs that “meet and compete” in the same space for significance.
How you relate and attach is based on cues released from your attachment system. The attachment system is encoded in the brain and embedded deeply within your body. It influences how you react to relational stress and whether you are prone to fight, run, or shut down. If you feel safe and trusting, you will be conciliatory and collaborative. Co-operation is vital for successful mediated outcomes. If you feel fear and anxiety, you are more likely to fight to be heard, and if you feel disrespected, you will shut down and withdraw during conflict and times of misunderstanding. The last two self-preservation strategies negatively impact reconciliation, and mediation will be stalemated.
Abby Silva, through her registered trademarked approach of Corporate Attachment®, educates mediation participants on their attachment styles, teaches them to identify their triggers, how to regulate, and how to re-join communication to achieve a relational reset that is necessary for teams to resume their function, focus, and productivity. With her keen eye and honed skills, Abby can facilitate highly conflicted individuals back into relational ease where work can resume safely and productively. Her workplace relationship agreement that all parties must sign becomes a mechanism of safety and accountability embraced fully because all participants contribute to its construction.
